Should men help out around the house or should they absorb some responsibility. Zig Ziglar thinks “…there is a significant difference in taking responsibility and offering to help”.
With Mothers’ Day just around the corner, it was refreshing to see this article written by a man, as it struck a chord with me as I’m sure with most women. Often times I feel so unappreciated, as a woman’s work in the house never ends, especially if there are kids in the picture. So I decided to share Zig’s article with you.
Most Men Don’t Understand
By Zig Ziglar
“It’s true. The typical husband and father doesn’t have a clue as to what the housewife—whether she be full-time or part-time—does to maintain the home. Ruth Hampton expressed it this way: “The most influential position in the nation today is held by a woman. She enforces law, practices medicine and teaches without degree, certificate of competence or required training. She handles the nation’s food, administers its drugs and practices emergency first aid. She cares for all the physical and mental ills of the family; a man literally places his life and the lives of his children in the hands of this woman–his wife.”
It is, of course, true that many men—and, fortunately, this is increasing, though it’s still far from equal—do help with things around the house. However, there is a tremendous difference in helping vs. being responsible for. Typically, the husband asks “What can I do?” when the wife can clearly see what needs to be done. The husband too often assumes that it’s “no big deal,” that his wife really doesn’t need any help, and besides, he needs to relax after a tough day. Example: On Monday night, even though she might be a football fan as much as her husband, she’s the one who puts the laundry into the washer, moves it to the dryer during the commercial break and folds and places the clothes where they belong at half-time. When the game is over, if she’s had any interest in it, she probably takes the dishes out of the dishwasher. In the meantime, the husband doesn’t have a clue as to what’s going on. There is a significant difference in taking responsibility and offering to help.
Now, husbands, before you get too upset with me, remember, if the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it. However, studies reveal that what I’ve said is largely true. Good luck to all of you. Husbands, help your wives and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP! “
Zig Ziglar is known as America’s motivator. He is the author of 30 books . Check out his latest book, Born to Win.
Remember your expectations for any given situation will greatly influence the end result. I know some men, think the work in the house is a woman’s job. But I think there should be some sort of partnership. A partnership can only help to enhance your relationship. As it can get real stressful, worse if the woman also works 9 to 5, because after all of that your expected to find quality time for your husband. Tell me, what is your take on this issue?
Here’s to a Fresh Start at home!
The best way to make your spouse and children feel secure is not with big deposits in bank accounts, but with little deposits of thoughtfulness and affection in the “love account.” ~Zig Ziglar