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THE BEST JOB IN THE WORLD!!!

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“Ma-ma does everything for the baby, who responds by saying Da-da first.”
Mignon McLaughlin

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The Best Job in the World

This job’s a tough one, Lord,
but the perks are beyond compare.
Who else but a mother
knows the joy of satisfying
a human being’s every need?

Who else but a mother
sees love come alive a hundred ways,
from jelly-smeared kisses and
diminishing sobs
to crayoned valentines
and soggy, shared suckers?”

Thank you so much for this
priceless privilege,
this role so few get to know.
Inadequate as my training,
inept as I might be,
I know I have tenure for life.

Even so, I ask your assistance
in making sure I deserve it.
For a bad mother is the worst nightmare
a child can ever know,
and a good one
a dream come true
to curly up with for life.

–from A New Mother’s Prayers,
by Jayne Jaudon Ferrer

Take time out to express your love and appreciation to your MOM today.  If you were to just say one word that describes your mom what would it be!

Empower & Inspire to Succeed

Where there is LIFE there is HOPE

Learn To Let Go

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“Everything Happens for a Reason”
– Courtesy of lovelysms.com

 

“To attain knowledge,

add things every day.

To attain wisdom,

remove things every day.”


— Lao Tzu

A Prayer for the New Year

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Courtesy of Daysprings.com

A New Year’s Prayer

Lord,
As a new year begins, we come to You and ask for Your blessing.
We pray that you would give us joy to fill our days, peace to fill our hearts, and love to fill our lives.
Thank You for the plans You have for us in this new year.
We wait in anticipation to see all You will do!

Thanking God for you and praying your new year is blessed in every way.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Where there is LIFE there is HOPE

Audria

My New Year Wish

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Wishing everyone a Happy New Year!  With lots of joy, happiness and blessings.  Remember, everyday that you have life is a new day to create anew spirit within you; for new opportunities for new chances. Whatever it is, you have the capacity to make it happen. You have to believe in yourself and take it one step at a time  and with God’s help we will surely make through.

As always, Where there is LIFE there is HOPE

Audria

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How do you forgive yourself

This was a great read, and I thought it would be good to share as we all have trouble forgiving ourselves.  I have made some mistakes in my life that sometimes I still do beat myself up for.  But guess what I realize you cant change the past, you can only live for today.  Sarah Markley is an (in)courage writer on Daysprings.com.

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“I’m just so stupid!!” One of my daughters face-palms herself after a mistake she’s made. And I’ll admit, it’s a big one.

“No you aren’t. You just made a poor choice.” I go to her, gather her and do my best to infuse truth into her heart and somehow layer it over the lies that have begun to reside there.

I have never told her she is stupid or bad or unlovable. To the contrary. I try to combat those outside influences each day of their lives.

You know you’re amazing.

You are so smart.

You’ve done your best, that’s all you can do!

But even my girls are prime examples of just how hard we are on ourselves.

My 10 year old can run 3 good barrel runs but if she disqualifies on her fourth, she’s in tears. My 6 year old can stop the attempted goals for a whole soccer game but if she lets one sneak through as goalie, she can’t seem to forgive herself.

Why is it so hard? And why are we so hard on ourselves?

As adults we’ve seen so much more in our own lives worth forgiving then letting soccer goals squeak by or going off course in a barrel race. We’ve made big bad poor choices that really do affect our own hearts and the lives of others.

We’ve betrayed people and spouses and we’ve lied to people that didn’t deserve to be lied to. We’ve stolen and held anger close and we’ve been bitter. We’ve also simply made big, life-altering but unavoidable mistakes that have hurt and tripped others and ourselves.

As adults, we’ve done a lot of things over our lifetimes that truly deserve a face-palm.

Probably the most common question I hear when you tell me your stories is this one:

How did you learn to forgive yourself?

I’m not a step-by-step formula girl, but I’ve tried to drill it down to five steps, more or less, that have helped me come from a place of understanding the mistakes I’ve made to being able to forgive myself. {And I’ve made a few big ones in my time.}

1. Take responsibility for what is yours but not for what is not yours. Here’s what I mean. To begin to forgive ourselves we must realize that we actually did do something stupid or silly or wrong or unthoughtful. We have to take responsibility for our actions and behaviors that led us to the place. But we also shouldn’t take responsibility for the mistakes and wrongs of others. If my 1st grader gets in a tussle on the playground and screams angrily at another kid, she should take responsibility for what she has done wrong, but not for the actions of the other child. Those of us who are hard on ourselves often take too much blame and we take blame that is not ours.

2. Start speaking the truth. The truth is, you’ve already been forgiven. The truth is, your mistakes do not define you. The truth is, you are not alone. The truth is, the grace and forgiveness of God are bigger than all of us and our mistakes combined. The truth is, God has deemed us worthy of His forgiveness. When we begin to speak these things we also begin to believe them. And the truth is, your journey to forgiving yourself is one that God with travel with you each step of the way.

3. Embrace grace. Bask in it. Observe it in action. Watch for it. Become an expert in it so you can recognize it when you see it. Begin receiving it from others if you don’t. Those of us who are hard on ourselves are also hard recipients of grace. We don’t accept it from ourselves (it’s why we are on this journey) and often we don’t accept it from others.

4. Forgive others. One of the best ways I know how to begin doing something is to practice it. If we practice forgiving one another, the forgiving of our own mistakes comes all the quicker.

5. Let others speak the truth into your life when you forget it. Sometimes we need good, objective truth-speakers in our lives to help remind us that we have already been forgiven. Maybe it is a good friend, a mentor, a counselor or a fellow {in}courage community member. None of us can journey on our own, ever, so even in this it is good to have solid, strong people around us to tell us that we are worthy of forgiveness. And to tell us once in awhile that:

we are amazing,

we are smart,

and we’ve done the best we can.

Do you have trouble forgiving yourself? What things have helped you?

by Sarah Markley

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I especially love #4, remembering to forgive others will no doubt help you in forgiving yourself.

Remember, Where there is Life there is Hope.

Audria

The Fitting Room – Staying true to you

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Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12

The Apostle Paul uses the metaphor of putting on the virtues like you put on your clothes, but for much of my life I felt more like I was wrestling them on. Like when you’re in the fitting room and your arms are above your head and you start what appears to be a frenetic shimmy into an outfit that should have had an extra button, zipper or should simply be a large. I don’t think that is what Paul had in mind.

My greatest hope is that you will believe how chosen, set apart and dearly loved you are by Jesus. And that in this believing you’ll discover a new set of virtues you don’t have to fight, but simply get to wear.”

This is an excerpt from Kelly Minter’s book “The Fitting Room”.   I always like reading these books and inspirational quotes from Daysprings.com.   It is just so uplifting makes you want to sing for joy and give thanks and praise everyday.

So I’m giving thanks for life, thanking God for the opportunity to be true to myself and true to His teachings and His values. Remember if you dont stand up for what is true and right, you will fall for anything.

So as you start fresh another day, clothe yourself in the glory of the Lord and let His light shine through you.

Here’s to a BLESSED weekend

 

Most Men Really Really Dont Understand ….

Should men help out around the house or should they absorb some responsibility.  Zig Ziglar thinks “…there is a significant difference in taking responsibility and offering to help”. 

With Mothers’ Day just around the corner, it was refreshing to see this article written by a man, as it struck a chord with me as I’m sure with most women.  Often times I feel so unappreciated, as a woman’s work in the house never ends, especially if there are kids in the picture.  So I decided to share Zig’s article with you.

Most Men Don’t Understand

By Zig Ziglar

“It’s true.  The typical husband and father doesn’t have a clue as to what the housewife—whether she be full-time or part-time—does to maintain the home.  Ruth Hampton expressed it this way: “The most influential position in the nation today is held by a woman.  She enforces law, practices medicine and teaches without degree, certificate of competence or required training.  She handles the nation’s food, administers its drugs and practices emergency first aid.  She cares for all the physical and mental ills of the family; a man literally places his life and the lives of his children in the hands of this woman–his wife.”

It is, of course, true that many men—and, fortunately, this is increasing, though it’s still far from equal—do help with things around the house.  However, there is a tremendous difference in helping vs. being responsible for.  Typically, the husband asks “What can I do?” when the wife can clearly see what needs to be done.  The husband too often assumes that it’s “no big deal,” that his wife really doesn’t need any help, and besides, he needs to relax after a tough day.  Example: On Monday night, even though she might be a football fan as much as her husband, she’s the one who puts the laundry into the washer, moves it to the dryer during the commercial break and folds and places the clothes where they belong at half-time.  When the game is over, if she’s had any interest in it, she probably takes the dishes out of the dishwasher.  In the meantime, the husband doesn’t have a clue as to what’s going on.  There is a significant difference in taking responsibility and offering to help.

Now, husbands, before you get too upset with me, remember, if the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it.  However, studies reveal that what I’ve said is largely true.  Good luck to all of you.  Husbands, help your wives and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP! “

Zig Ziglar is known as America’s motivator.   He is the author of 30 books .  Check out his latest book, Born to Win.

Remember your expectations for any given situation will greatly influence the end result. I know some men, think the work in the house is a woman’s job.  But I think there should be some sort of partnership.  A partnership can only help to enhance your relationship.  As it can get real stressful, worse if the woman also works 9 to 5, because after all of that your expected to find quality time for your husband.  Tell me, what is your take on this issue?

Here’s to a Fresh Start at home!

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The best way to make your spouse and children feel secure is not with big deposits in bank accounts, but with little deposits of thoughtfulness and affection in the “love account.”  ~Zig Ziglar

Love is spelled T-I-M-E for a Child

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To all my fellow parents, I thought you might like this.

As I read this article by Zig Ziglar on spending quality time with kids, I realized my morning started out real badly with my son, with him crying and me threatening to withhold games and toys.

Zig says “The way you start and end your child’s day is extremely important because if the day is started and ended properly, the time in between will go much better”. This made a lot of sense, because when I reflected on the other times that I’m gentle and would kiss him and we giggle together in the mornings, things flow sooo much easier.

We tend to make a lot of deals together.  It would go like this..“You know if you go to the bathroom do what you have to do, then I give you a bath, have your breakfast and get dressed without fussing you can take your leapfrog with you to the car”.. stuff like that.  And it usually works most of the time.  There’s still a little fuss, and I’ll remind him of the deal and what he has to lose.  He would then say “mommy was I good, see mommy I making a deal” 🙂 which makes me soo proud.

I mean, I understand, with all the stress that we go through, we tend to get a little course with them.  We take out our frustrations on them, we rush them, we get impatient.

But here’s Zig Ziglar’s suggestion, which I absolutely agree with, and hope that you will try from now on.

He says “At bedtime, take your child by the hand, lead them back to the bed, tuck them in, then chat with them for a while.  For a child, love is spelled T – I – M – E, and your child is more likely to open up and reveal his/her heart just before they go to sleep than at any other time of the day.  Ten to fifteen minutes can make a big difference in the bonding process with your child by giving them that precious assurance that they are deeply loved, that you have time for them and they are more important than ten more minutes of television.  Try this approach and I’ll SEE YOU—and your child—AT THE TOP!”

All the best to you in your continued bonding process, and remember with kindness as your guide you will never lose your way.

Audria

I am Blessed

Soooo, I’ve been busy planting and watching my flowers and plants blossom.   So when I saw this weekend thought today from my friend, I knew I had to pass it on.

I mean,  its such a blessing to see God’s creations flourish.  Even better when you know you had some little part in it.

As I toil everyday in my garden, ploughing through the soil, watering, pruning I feel blessed that they have survived even the plants that struggle; with a little extra love and care they usually make it.  As another friend told me, “…when you start a garden you have to nuture it, feeding, watering, tending it, like a child, until the plants can fend for themselves without your constant care and then they will reward you with their beautiful blooms.”

She is totally right, they are just like kids! Because as parents we make sure to love and guide our children in the best way possible.   And there are moments when you see the results and you know your hard work is paying off.

My four year old is very active and he keeps me on my toes all the time. So I have to always be alert and make sure I’m instilling the right values and attitudes and also portraying them.   And I know those of you with adult children who turned out wonderful and even better than you expected; you cant help but give God the glory because He was definitely there with you guiding you through.

Just know that there will always be this war within you between good and evil, but we have to always strive to give God,  our families, friends and the world the best of ourselves in everything we do.

“Life is like a garden so be careful of the seeds you plant today:

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation”

As you enjoy this weekend thought, reflect on your life and your actions and ask yourself, What kind of seeds are you planting TODAY?

As always be Empowered and Inspire to Succeed.

DO IT ANYWAY!!

A few weeks ago, I went to my son’s PTA meeting and the President of the PTA started out reading a list of commandments I might say, that really got me thinking.

It was soo powerful I decided to look it up after sharing with a friend, and found out that it was written by Dr. Kent M. Keith a dynamic speaker and writer whose mission is to help people find personal meaning in a crazy world.  He is known nationally and internationally for writing this book “The Paradoxical Commandments”.  It has been used by business leaders, military commanders, government officials, religious leaders, university presidents, social workers, teachers, rock stars, parents, coaches, and students. Even Mother Teresa thought the Paradoxical Commandments were important enough to put up on the wall of her children’s home in Calcutta.

So I thought, why not share with you guys.  We all need the help anyway.  What if we had to recite this just before we are to face each day, do you think it would help?

The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

And I would add this line that the President read, that is not in the original “Paradoxical Commandments” –

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;

it was never between you and them anyway.

So go ahead, and pledge to be the best that you were always meant to be.

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